if you don't have something nice to say...

seriously, after so many pregnancies, i am still shocked by the comments of strangers. is there some rule that you can say whatever you want to a pregnant women?

today while checking out at the grocery store (with hadley and mason) the cashier asked me when i was due. she smiled and seemed nice. i am guessing she was close to 70 years old... when i told her november, she kinda snapped back at me and said, "wow, you're already big!", so i just smiled. really, what was i gonna say to that one? then she said, "oh, and you are carrying really low." so, i smiled again and i said "oh, i don't know..." she then when on and on about how low i was, and if i carried all my kids this low and if i always get so big... good lord, i wanted to tell her to shut up!!! and then she asked if i knew what i was having, and i told her we didn't find out, it was our 4th and final pregnancy. she rolled her eyes at me!!! really??? i mean, come on...

i am usually really nice and like to help when i am at the store. i just sat there, let her bag everything herself, and then waited for her to come put it in my cart. i was not helping the old bitch today!!!

seriously... i know i am not the only one who gets comments, all pregnant women do. i have also received more than my fair share of comments when people find out that this will be baby #4. usually i am out and about doing errands when the boys are at camp, or play dates... so lots of people assume i only have one or two other kids. when i tell them it will be my 4th, they look stunned. strangers also assume that this baby wasn't wanted or planned... so they say things like "surprise!" i usually then say something along the lines of after suffering from infertility and a miscarriage that i am very blessed with being able to have the large family that my husband and i always wanted. that usually shuts them up!!!

friends, family and the people around town that i see are all very supportive. there are many families in town that have 3-5 kids, so it isn't so uncommon. it is the random people at the store that have the most to say.

i think craig will agree with me that this is the #1 most crazy comment that i ever received. when i was pregnant with carter, i was working for boston public school at the summer school program. one of the girls i worked with was the principal's daughter. we got along well, she was a couple years younger than me, and we would hang out after work a lot. when i told her i was pregnant, her first question was "are you keeping it?" and there you go....

by the way... i got on the scale, and my total weight gain for this pregnancy is 6 lbs. here is a picture from today @ 20 weeks.